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New on the dating scene and have no idea what to do? We've all been there and you're already in the right place, as the key to successful dating is the inside scoop... there are essential things you need to know before jumping in to ensure a great time for both you and the people you date.

Dating Dos:

1. Do be yourself

First and foremost, be yourself! It can be tempting to put on a persona to impress someone, but authenticity is key to building meaningful connections. Let your personality shine, share your interests, and don't be afraid to show who you truly are. The right person will appreciate you for you.

2. Do communicate openly

Good communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, whether it's a casual fling or something more serious. Be clear about your intentions and expectations from the start. If you're looking for a relationship, say so. If you're just having fun, make sure the other person knows that too. This openness will help avoid misunderstandings and ensure you're both on the same page.

3. Do meet in public places

When you’re getting to know someone new, it’s a good idea to meet in public places. Bath has plenty of great options, from cosy cafés and riverside pubs to beautiful parks and historic sites. Meeting in public ensures a safe and relaxed environment where you can get to know each other without pressure. If someone asks to meet you at their house for the first time, suggest a public place instead.

4. Do respect boundaries and take consent seriously

Respect is crucial in any relationship. Pay attention to your date’s comfort levels and boundaries. If they’re not comfortable with something, respect their wishes and never push them to do anything they’re not ready for. Similarly, make sure to communicate your own boundaries clearly. 

Consent in relationships is an important conversation we all need to have and should always be on your mind when dating. If you're ever in doubt about whether someone is giving sexual consent (physically or verbally), then communication is again key. Simply asking them or striking up an open conversation about consent beforehand will prevent any confusion.

5. Do make time for friends and yourself

It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new romance, but don’t forget to make time for your friends, studies, and self-care. Uni life is all about balance and you don't want to lose connections because of a new relationship.

Dating Don'ts:

1. Don’t ghost people

Ghosting (disappearing without a word) might seem like an easy way to end things, but it's not fair to the other person. If you’re not interested in continuing dating/a new relationship, be honest and upfront about it. A kind message explaining how you feel is far better than leaving someone in the dark.

2. Don’t make assumptions

Assuming someone feels the same way you do or wants the same things can lead to misunderstandings. Just because you’ve been on a few dates doesn’t mean you’re exclusive or in a relationship. Make sure to have a conversation about where you both stand to avoid any awkward situations or hurt feelings.

3. Don’t move too fast

While it's great to be enthusiastic, moving too fast can be overwhelming for both of you. Take your time getting to know each other, and don’t rush into anything. Enjoy the process of building a connection and let things develop naturally.

4. Don’t neglect your responsibilities

It can be easy to let dating distract you from your studies and other commitments, but remember why you’re at uni. Make sure your academic work, part-time job, and other responsibilities are still priorities.

5. Don’t forget about safety

Always prioritise your safety. If you’re meeting someone for the first time, let a friend know where you’re going and who you’re meeting. Avoid sharing too much personal information right away and trust your instincts. If something feels off, it’s okay to leave.

Bonus tips:

• Be open to different people: Uni is a time for exploring and meeting people from all walks of life. Don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone and date someone who might not be your “usual type.”
• Use apps wisely: Dating apps can be a great way to meet people, but be cautious. Make sure you’re using reputable apps and keep your personal information private until you feel comfortable.
• Have fun: Dating should be fun, not stressful. Enjoy meeting new people, having new experiences, and learning more about yourself in the process.
• Split the bill: You may feel you need to do the old-fashioned thing and pay for everything on the first date to make a good first impression. This is a thankfully dying belief and you should feel okay about splitting things equally on the first date. If things go well, then feel free to treat the other person in the future but it's important to remember a strong relationship is built on more than just bank transactions...

By following these dos and don'ts, you can make sure your dating life at uni is enjoyable, respectful, and safe. Remember, there’s no rush – take your time, be yourself, and have fun!